The Message We All Need and How to Believe it
I have a simple message for you today: you are doing a good thing.
There’s a whisper in my heart that people need to know that they are doing a good thing. Whatever it is that they are doing, they need to hear the words you are okay. You are enough. What you’re doing, it’s good.
We all need to hear that we are okay.
Late in 2016 I started seeing a therapist. It was a long road to make the call because I didn’t know that I’m okay, even when I’m not okay. I feared being judged, even by a licensed professional whose job it is not to judge. I spent my life dealing with my issues alone because I didn’t want people to know I wasn’t perfect.
And what happened was she told me I was okay. She told me that by being there, by being me, I am doing a good thing. She also let me know that she isn’t perfect either. That even with all her schooling and experience and life tools she still struggles in similar ways I do.
Little by little I let my guard down, and not only with my therapist. At preschool pick up I started to pay attention to the weary-eyed moms who like me, needed those words. When conversation allowed me I began to let them know they are okay and that we will be okay together. Whenever a mom mentions that her kid’s behavior is due to her lack in some area, I tell her she is doing pretty well; because, hey look! Your kid has pants on today! You did a good thing!
I also try to remember that my kids need to hear they are okay. And my husband – especially my husband. Sometimes, I have opportunity to tell the checker at the grocery store, or the bank teller, and even my therapist. We all need to hear we are doing a good thing.
You are doing a good thing, too. I’m serious, you are. I know it might not feel like it, often times it doesn’t. When finances are thin, the kids are being jerks, your simple life isn’t so simple yet, and bad habits won’t break – you are doing a good thing.
Do you know how I know? Because you’re here.
I don’t mean because you’ve landed here on my blog. I mean that you are here, in the thick of life moving forward; in community with someone or a group of someones. And since you are here reading this post you are probably seeking a better way to do life. A simpler way.
That is a good thing.
The Power of Positivity
Changing the way we think about ourselves and our circumstances is how we learn that we are okay. A simple way to do this is through affirmations.
Affirmations are statements that we say out loud to ourselves or to others to affirm our positive or negative beliefs. If you find yourself speaking negatively about yourself, you are affirming the negative and setting your attention on the very things you hate.
If you think and speak positively about yourself regularly, your mindset shifts toward the good in yourself and others. When I tell my friends that they are doing a good thing, even as they tell me the very things that aren’t good, I am affirming their goodness, and my own.
Affirmations can be applied to any area of your life. This is a practice of positive thinking. I don’t claim that positive thinking alone will solve the hardships in your life; I simply believe that shifting our mindset as we enter into each day dramatically changes our response to our hardships.
A few months ago I began playing worship music constantly. In my home as I went about being a mom and housewife, in the car running errands, while out for a run, and while writing posts for this blog. For weeks Pandora played nothing but worship.
And to be honest, I wasn’t ‘worshiping’ through each song. I was just living my life with worship music as my soundtrack, and I started to notice after about a week that my mindset had shifted. I was happier; joyful. My moods were better and less unpredictable and I had more patience with my kids. I was less worried and more thankful.
Nothing else in my life changed, but I changed. Plus, a changed me can do a lot to change my circumstances.
By filling our minds with positive messages we become positive people. And this world needs positive people to speak truth to each other – to remind us that we are all okay.
It might feel strange at first, unless you’re accustomed to talking to yourself out loud (which, again, is totally okay!). You are okay, you are doing a good thing. God thinks so and so do I. You should too!
Speak these affirmations aloud and often. There is power is speaking God’s promises into the world.
You can click here and get the full version of these affirmations to print out for daily use.
Here are three to get you started:
“I Am Okay” Affirmations
There is good in me and in my life because God lives in me. I receive His goodness with an open heart and gratitude.
I am loved, chosen, and accepted by God, my family, and myself.
My circumstances or failures do not define who I am. God defines who I am and makes me complete in Him.
What Happens When We Don’t Believe
The beautiful mystery of a positive affirmation practice is that though we might not believe it right now, it still has the power of positive change. If you struggle with self esteem or co-dependency or depression or perfectionism you might not feel these words are true. You might have to spit them out with tears and disgust.
But somehow, in the spiritual realm unknown, these words are more powerful than the lies you’ve believed and the more you say them the more you believe them. The promises of God make all the lies untrue.
I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone today. Take a moment to speak love over yourself. Tell yourself you are doing a good thing even if it doesn’t feel like it. And do it again tomorrow. Maybe even tell someone else they are okay too.
You are doing a good thing, my friend.